So did you cheat with the new chinese chick or what?
Cheat? No. I don't cheat. The guilt isn't worth it.
Here is an update on the ladies front...
I ended things with the girlfriend. Told her my mother is very sick and I have to go home, possibly for good. She begged and pleaded for a few days, and vowed to wait forever, but seems to have dropped off now.
I went out with new girl the other night. She got me a gift, a book to learn Chinese. She and I and my roommate and her best friend are double dating tonight to celebrate my birthday. I like her. She is beautiful, very classy, sweet as can be, very smart, and a girl who has her financial shit together. She has long term potential, depending on a few factors.
Meanwhile...
1. I discovered a brothel the other day. $27 dollars a throw. I've spent $27 on far worse.
2. I have begun playing on tantan, which is the Chinese version of tinder. I am being very very picky. I swipe right to 9's and 10's only. So far I am chatting with 5 or six matches.
One of them is absolutely stunning. Like "wow" beautiful. So I notice she has wedding photos on her profile. I ask her "are you married?" She says "yes, does that bother you?" I said "no, none of my business." She says "good, it's ok, don't worry about it." Sounds like she may be a possible "meet me at a hotel be discreet" kind of girl.
3. I met a sales girl at the mall the other day. She is gorgeous. I bought a scarf and she went out of her way to come up behind me and reach around me and tie it all pretty. All the older lady sales ladies were smirking as we shamelessly flirted. She gave me her digits, and we've been talking. No real progress yet though.
Gentlemen, let me tell you, this place is amazing. Not only am I not particularly good looking, i, by American standards, have zero game. But here I am a focking pimp. I swagger around here like I own the damn place, flirting and having a good time.
Having lost the weight and going on several dates a week, I am paying a great deal more attention to my wardrobe than I ever had. Fat as I was, I didn't care. It looked bad anyway, why worry.
I found a tailor. I am slowly having him make me clothes in more western styles. The Asian stuff is designed for short, very slim people. Doesn't look right on me. Plus, most of my appeal is novelty. I know this. They've never seen blue eyes, what they consider blond hair, and whatnot before. So might as well dress different too.
So I generally strut around in custom tailored shirts with an English style topcoat, and one of several fancy scarfs tied ascot style.
Bottom line, I suspect that when I do come home, should I be so inclined, I would have much more luck with the American ladies too. The girls of China have been good for the confidence.
The other fun thing here... The game is very very subtle here. Nowhere near as direct. Take new girl for example.
When we met, she knew I had a girlfriend. Even went so far as to compliment me on my loyalty. She then proceeded to come on strong for a Chinese girl, for over a week now.
When I broke up with the girlfriend, I wanted her to know. But you can't just tell them. One would lose face doing that, it would appear bad to dump one chick for another... Even though that isn't what happened, and is what she clearly wanted anyway.
So I told my roommate to mention it to his girl, knowing it would trickle around to my girl, then being "sisters" and all. And later, I was mentioning that I would probably be going to Shanghai for part of my break, lamenting that I would be traveling alone. This was a move in the chess game intended to set the foundation for later possibly seeing if she wishes to come along, if I choose to do that.
She asks, "alone? Is your girlfriend not coming with you?" "No, we broke up the other day." "Oh. I'm sorry. I didn't mean to bring it up." She already knew. But pretended not to. And she asked no questions. Asians do not talk about their pasts.
Every conversation is like that here. There is a literal conversation, and a subtle long term strategy game being played at once. I find it entertaining.
Another example. One of my "friends" likes to start shit at the office. He told me that one of the bosses reported me to the big boss for something. So I played a Chinese game. Approached the boss. Asked him if he liked the computed he just bought, I'm thinking of buying a new computer, yadda yada. We talk about computers for almost an hour.
Only then so I mention, casually "oh, did I do something wrong the other day? If so, please let me apologize."
"What do you mean? No, you are one of the few I respect around here. "
"Well, I was told you reported me to the big boss.."
"(Angry now"... Who told you that?!"
"Man, I don't want to be a snitch...l"
"Please tell me..."
"Well... (throws scheming dooshbag friend under the bus.)"
"Don't listen to anything that idiot says. We're cool, let's have lunch next week."
"Ok, thanks for the advice about the computer."
My "buddy" is now fucked. He tried to start shit. He doesn't know I am smarter than him and have learned how this game is played.
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anyway, in conclusion, obviously having a blast here. And we get a month off after next week. I am planning on hanging here for the first two and a half weeks, writing, working out, learning Chinese, and chasing the girls around.
Then I am going to go play in Shanghai for ten days. May take a chick. May find one when I get there. Who knows, who cares. Either way, Shanghai will be a LOT of fun.
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